Will big fat weddings lose some weight in Goa?
The more spent, he more glamorous he wedding gets. After looking at the recent Ambani weddings, (Of Mukesh & Nita Ambani’s daughter’s followed by their son’s) are people really inspired to have melodramatic big fat Indian weddings. In a generation like us today, do we Goans still want expensive massive weddings to celebrate the uniting of love? Or is a meaningful expenditure with the budget allocated for BFWs (Big Fat Weddings) weddings –like future planning more important? Café highlights all the details on the trend of wedding budgets and expenditure
When it comes to planning your wedding everyone gets those cold feet. After all, everyone counts on whose wedding will be the best. Each one tries to be under the limelight; five starred deco, set-up, dressing, catering, filming and extra traditional activities like mehendi, haldi, sangeet, roce, rehearsal dinners and it goes on… how much money is spent on all of these? Wouldn’t it be a better option if an equivalent expenditure goes on wedding and then the future plans, because at the end you are going to marry your partner and not the rest of the world, so why the trouble of goose-bumps when your cake doesn’t have that perfect shape, or your deco lights don’t dazzle like the stars?
How to spend less? According to online American reports, a lot of couples refrain from spending a large amount on their wedding day. Instead they ask their ‘to be invited guests’ to buy them wedding materials and services in place of gifts by making a list of things they require for the wedding. In this way, the couple spends less, and their gifts are more sensible than having a house full of bouquets that fade away later. Another way of saving money during weddings is the tradition that some British follow of having food stalls and where the guests can buy their own food, with only a complimentary beverage and snacks from the couple. “Don’t go crazy on the wedding”, says Founder of the websites OpenYourDiary and The Event Thing, Alex Elderfield. Apparently, while doing a research and attending various weddings, Alex realized that while there have been lavish weddings, the most enjoyable ones have been those on the lower end of the budget. “It’s cool when, guests bring the food and drinks and the couple/parents provide the venue that would be a village hall and a cricket pavilion, some fizz for toasts and music. People remember how it felt, not how much you spent on the table decorations or flowers. People like to contribute, to feel part of the event, and not just be an audience. But sadly, we do not see this in a lot of places because of the increase competition among weddings.” However, Nikita Chodankar Dhuri, Director of Outdo Media and Events who recently tied the knot in March, gives the other view about the weddings that are glamorously celebrated. “The rich and not so rich too, try and still go for massive weddings as it happens once in a lifetime. It is important to make the day look classy, feel special and unique in its own way. ”
Weddings in Goa Interestingly, new generation Goans are falling into the trap of pushing the wedding expense envelope further. In the last two years from 2017 to 2019, weddings, on an average, have cost 10 to 12 Lakhs, with some large scale ones going way beyond. In fact in some weddings the flowers alone cost RS 10 lakh plus. However, 10% of people still opt for the wedding saving plan in Goa if there is no family pressure of having a better wedding than one of your friends. Unfortunately in Goa, though many decide on having a well planned budget wedding, most end up in spending tremendously after society pressure, but of course no one would cross more than 15 Lakhs.
Guests complete the wedding Apart from the local weddings, Goa is a great place for destination weddings and most of these kinds of weddings are over budget with thousands of guests. With all the drama happening in the background, the plus point is that it is the easiest way for designers, wedding planners, event managers, and brands to make money and advertise their brand identity. Whenever it comes to inviting guests, having big crowds for wedding are always a personal choice. You may want to invite your office-mate and his mother and his mother’s sister, and his girlfriend, or you may only want to invite your office-mate to be the guests at your wedding. According to WoknRoll partner Asheen Lobo, Today’s generation would love to have a small wedding with close friends and family on a Beach or abroad, that’s the current building trend. But, unfortunately they go through The Big Fat wedding due the family and society. The “what will they say”, is the question that creates the whole problem.
Wedding Planning v\s Future planning Marketing Professional Shimonti Gupta understands that both the trends are important through all the weddings she attended where there is a huge amount spent for a glamorous wedding and where the money is used wisely for a meaningful wedding. “We have wise young ones who would rather travel or buy something important to them. And then you have the young ones who are inspired by the expensive weddings around the world and want to recreate a celebrity wedding; there is also a third kind, who are very balanced. They have a small boutique wedding and also engage in buying a car or a home,” she expresses. Many couples often plan on saving their money for a great holiday together than on a wedding ceremony, while some like treating the special day as a memorable one. As most argue on whether great holidays or future savings are important, Shimonti adds, “Very tricky, I think both are important, because after all in our busy job life, we need a vacation spent well, in order to have a fresh start for the future planning.” Nikita agrees that a great holiday is important as it makes memories which one can cherish for a lifetime. “It also brings the couple together and helps them spend some quality and romantic time,” she says.
- It’s Heritage time in Fatorda
- Bond over food at Thaal
- Across North Goa, joined hands are loosening the garbage gridlock
- ‘Talking’ has surpassed technology and time
- Co-working: the new Goa’s professional tinto
- NOT EVERYONE CAN FLY, AT LEAST NOT THIS SUMMER
- Books are most powerful weapon of them all!
- Let’s report on trash or pick it up
- AVENGERS… IT’S THE END!
- The King’s School hosted IPL style King’s Premier League tennis ball cricket
- Annual Awards Day at Damodar College
- We used our right! Now it will bear fruits…