Herald: YOUTH, DON’T LET ANGER CONTROL YOUR ACTIONS

YOUTH, DON’T LET ANGER CONTROL YOUR ACTIONS

11 Jul 2019 05:25am IST

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Nicole Remedios

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11 Jul 2019 05:25am IST

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Nicole Remedios

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When youngsters approach difficult situations with aggravation, it leads to anger and even violence. The recent incident of a boy’s hand being severed after getting into a fight brings to the fore the angst and rage our youth are filled with. Let’s find out from teachers, counsellors and the youth themselves about what triggers such behaviour amongst the young blood

So a youth is hurt by something mean said to

him/her. The fists and blows begin. Sometimes, they resort to social media threats and verbal abuse. If parents scold them… they are enraged, reacting by leaving the house, throwing tantrums, locking themselves in the bedroom. But it doesn’t always end there; there have been incidents of suicidal cases for trivial reasons, murder cases for simple fights, sword fights, social media defamation, and their ideas don’t run out. I’m sure you have come across at least one such case.

Why do our youth react in such a manner? What leads them to such agonising pain and anger? And physical violence!

In a most recent incident, a youth’s wrist was severed with a sword near the Ribandar ferry wharf in a gang war. According to the reports, the incident had begun in Taleigao and the accused even attacked the victims with swords and iron rods and attempted to kill them. Three days later… the victim breathed his last.

This is definitely not a normal reaction from humans. Small fights turning into a pool of blood! Definitely not normal.

And it all begins with anger surrounding these youngsters growing up in the world so full of violence. The violence that is shown on TV, the violence and attacking methods they learn from killer and shooter games… It’s just so easy to slash and chop someone in a game, isn’t it? Click a button, swipe the screen and you’re done. This is what they do in real then.

Peter Borges, The CEO of Human Touch Foundation, has worked with several youngsters and he has noticed how youth were earlier involved in many activities. But now, as soon as they get a little free time, it’s all about social media and mobile phones exposing them to a lot of ideas. “However, leaving that aside, we have to understand that they are young and growing hormones can also play a role. Their anger needs to be conceptualised in what angle the situation it is.”

“When it comes to peers, every youth loves the be their best self among their gang of friends and would do whatever it takes to prove themselves, whether it has to go to the point of murdering someone or killing himself. Trust me, I have witnessed something like that in my boarding school,” says a young girl from Margao.

According to teacher Archana Shetye, in today’s generation, youngsters are growing up to possess more IQ (Intelligent Quotient) than EQ (Emotional Quotient). “This causes them to easily fall into such behavioural patterns. Maturity is when youth learn to calm down and handle the situation wisely than becoming violent,” explain Archana.

She also mentions the role of mobiles and media. “Games like PUB-G are giving youngsters an impatient characteristic. All the time they think about attacking or finishing the task; they are forever hyperactive,” she says.

A youth who had been in a situation leading to anger, shares his incident. “It may sound wrong to everyone else, but sometimes, when we are in situations where we cannot control our anger, we just do what comes to our minds first. I remember once how irritated I was with my brother for roaming with his new friends and forgetting me; I could have spoken to him, but in anger, we got into a fight and I bit his thigh; he was bleeding profusely after that. It’s really bad the way we aren’t able to control anger at times and I suggest special classes where children and youth are trained to act wisely.”

Similarly, with the cases happening around Goa, parents are really concerned even when teens go out with their close friends. You never know how normal fights can turn fatal. Keeping in mind to increase the EQ level in schools and colleges can be a saver for later.

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