The dark side of this process is that genocide is intimately connected with modernity and few nation states have arisen without exterminating identities that do not fit with the national narrative. A nation-state that has never undergone some form of ethnic cleansing is very rare. The patriotism emphasizes dying for the nation, the matriotism chooses living for society. Matriotism cherishes and values life the way a mother who wishes to protect her children. While militarism is the essence of classical patriotism, the matriotism sees the state as a servant of its citizens, not their master. The matriotic state is, by definition, a welfare state, a state based on service to the community. A matriotic state is not the top-down hierarchical structure like the patriotic state with its impersonal, distant, cool approach. The matriotic state is warm, present, nurturing and personal.