“Good morning, uncle,” greeted a student to the college gatekeeper. “Good morning,” replied the doorkeeper. “Hold on for a moment,” he continued. “Have you wished ‘good morning’ to your parents?” He inquired further. “I haven’t today, but I do at times,” replied the student. He had previously worked as a gatekeeper at Rosary College in Navelim a few years ago. He is no longer with us. May he rest in peace. Many students were dropped off by their parents. He would then directly inquire, “Have you said ‘thank you’ to your parent?” “Uncle, that's my father. Why should I thank him?” the student questioned.
Expressing gratitude is a significant part of our interactions as we navigate life. Demonstrating appreciation, fostering close connections, and acknowledging our own are relatively effortless. Yet, curiously, we often neglect or feel hesitant to openly exhibit our appreciation for our family members. Despite living together, forming a genuine bond within families seems to take time, a scenario uncommon in today’s world.
During the annual parish feast in the village, Vincent, newly married just five days prior, hurriedly returned home after the Mass to greet his friends, leaving his wife and mother waiting, untouched food on the table. He eventually arrived, indulged in his meal, and extended wishes to everyone but forgot his own family and mother. Such instances may resonate with many. But aren’t they our immediate family? Sometimes, they seem ‘taken for granted’, impacting family dynamics subtly yet significantly.
Human beings are inherently resourceful, often prioritising tasks elsewhere over family obligations. While we readily support those outside our family, how often do we truly acknowledge and support our hardworking parents within our own abode? “Who acknowledges our efforts within the family?” pondered a young man renowned for his social contributions. I pose the converse: who should acknowledge whom within the family? If everyone continually asks such questions without answers, confusion will persist.
We should genuinely appreciate our family members. Expressions like “It was my fault,” “God bless you,” “Thank you” should naturally emanate from us. When there’s a lack of acknowledgment or appreciation within the family, does arrogance foster stronger bonds? We ought to set our minds on prioritising nurturing positive relationships within our immediate circles. In our current circumstances, fostering a culture of reciprocity and praise is vital. If we consistently praised one another, offered kind words, and cultivated honour and respect within the family, we would flourish.
The essence of family life isn’t about mere existence; it’s about quality. If we continue down a path devoid of compliments, congratulations, or even simple greetings like ‘good morning’ or ‘good evening’, we risk isolating ourselves within our own households. Our families certainly do not desire such a fate. Therefore, let us, within our families, extend gestures of goodwill, share kind words, and reciprocate the appreciation bestowed upon us. Love and service start from within the family unit. This requires contemplation and action.