Since Independence, men and women in uniform have lost their lives and limbs while fighting for the country in the Kashmir War of 1947/48, the Chinese War of 1962, the Indo-Pak Wars of 1965 and 1971 and the Kargil War of 1998. Besides, there are many more incursions, clashes, raids and militant actions and accidents due to treacherous terrain, where men loose their lives. After every war when returning on short leave to reunite with our families or units moving back to their permanent stations, we were greeted by crowds and with some women distributing sweets and garlands at railway stations and at bus stands. But this is all momentary. The families of martyrs are left to fend for themselves.