NEVER BLAME ANYONE IN YOUR LIFE

It’s often said never blame anyone in your life as good people give you happiness, bad people give you experience, worst people give you a lesson and best people give you memories. We tend to point fingers at one another, when something goes wrong, we hold others responsible. Isn’t it strange that people are willing to define their existence based on the action of others?

Knowingly and unknowingly, I've learned many lessons in my life. Some of these lessons have made me wise, while others brought misery and pain. And yet all that I learned, which at first seemed destructive and disheartening, later turned out to have deeper meanings as in blessings in disguise. They gave me wisdom and helped me judge situations with a wider perspective and a more experienced mind.

Does flaunting your riches and fancy cars make you any better or successful than others? Apparently, one believes that bigger and more expensive cars have a large impact on their status. “The unexamined life is not worth living,” Socrates said. And he said it for a reason as only in striving to come to know ourselves and to understand ourselves do our lives have any meaning or value. In other words Socrates believed that living a life where you live under the rules of others, in a continuous routine without examining what you actually want out of it, is not worth living. Hence, we need to examine our deeds from now and then.

Generally, successful people don't pretend to be likable; they are likable because they show care for others. I believe life teaches us every single moment and we are always in the learning process which we may not realise.  Feuds and disputes are a two-sided affair. Love, hate, it’s all the same story, so never blame the other, because every time you point a finger, there are always three fingers pointing right back at you, isn’t? There is no denying it, nobody is perfect.

Whenever I have a misunderstanding with another, whoever it may be and, however, much pride I have inside, there is always a feeling of hurt and guilt. I know, had I been a better person, I could have prevented an unnecessary dispute. I eventually learn to value people more, and realise that human nature is too complicated for even the most advanced human mind. There is dignity in walking away peacefully rather than proving yourself right.

At the end of the day, let’s remember that our place is with God, and so learn to ignore people's comments, but good advice should never be missed out on, either. If people try to put you down, just walk on by, don't turn around, you only have to answer to yourself. As long as your conscience is clear, everything will be fine. Indeed, there is beauty in imperfection as no human is perfect but if you look closely, you would discover that every person is unique.