We all strive to be happy and successful in whatever we do on a continuous basis.
Success-dependent joy is transient. A joyful attitude on the other hand, irrespective of the external factors, leads to efficient decisions and action, improving chances of success. A joyful person is also able to handle setbacks much better. Stress harms health, whereas joyfulness improves it. Hence, joyful attitude is far more important as a way of life itself. It is the level of EQ rather than IQ which determines a person’s joy-fullness and thereby the right attitude.
While it’s only become a more popular buzzword in the past decade, the concept of Emotional Intelligence skills has been around for at least 25 years. Whether you know it as Emotional Quotient (EQ), Emotional Intelligence (EI), or you’re more familiar with the idea of ‘soft skills’ more broadly, EI plays an important role in our daily lives.
Rash reactions, getting into arguments, refusing to listen, lack of balance, lack of focus, blaming others, fear of failure, lack of empathy and Unwillingness to change are the critical signs of low EQ. Emotional Intelligence underpins our professional relationships, interpersonal communications, and is even related to our ability to motivate ourselves.
The level of knowledge measured by IQ is important but having high IQ alone can’t ensure neither happiness nor success. It is the critical life skill called EQ, which enable right attitude and pave the way for joy and success. While IQ may be harder to change, anyone can work on to develop better EQ.
being a skill, people can improve their emotional intelligence with coaching, self-introspection, and feedback from others. The other good news is that EQ naturally increases with age, even if you don’t conscientiously work on furthering it.
How to develop Emotional Intelligence Skills: Work on your self-awareness: Mindfulness is key with this exercise, which is surprisingly easy. Start by simply taking a little time out to think about your reactions to daily events.
Reframe your perceptions of self-management: The concept of reframing is a popular one with EI practitioners and works well if you are looking for a long-term way to deal with unavoidable interpersonal conflicts.
Recognise and celebrate your positive emotions: It’s about intentionally engaging in intrinsically rewarding activities like being kind, recalling past happy memories, and expressing our gratitude when we interact with others.
Become aware of your emotional triggers: Attached detachment and detached attachment coupled with self-control and high level of motivation is the key to increase Emotional intelligence.
In Saint Thiruvalluvar words: “If we are able to control our five senses, basically how we act or react, we will have a smoother journey in life and our future”.
“If we are able to clear our mind from undue desire, anger and confusionary mindset, we will be free from sorrow and difficulties.”
