After completing education, one looks for a job or one joins an enterprise. Subsequently we embark upon a married life after getting into a job, profession or business. The normal trend is to get married after you start earning a livelihood.
A person starts leading two lives – professional and personal. And an imbalance begins to take place without your ever noticing it. The demands of profession make you ignore the personal life. Personal life involves fitness, family and finance. Without your realizing it, you start neglecting your fitness, your family, and your finances. The job becomes so demanding. You want to prove yourself. You are not so much hankering after success as trying to avoid the stigma of failure. You work late in the evenings, you work on holidays, and you hardly take any break.
You are not aware that you are putting on fat, you don’t know how your kids are faring. You don’t have a thought to spare about your finances. You are too absorbed in your job, your profession.
Years pass on. You cross your mid-forties. Then it all dawns upon you. What silly follies have you committed. Your health is poor, you are poor. You have estranged your family. You have lost much more than you have gained.
My advice to all those who are starting a life after having started earning, when you are on your own, is not to ignore 3 F’s ie family, fitness, and finance. Do spend time with your family. Play with your kids. Be their teacher.
You got to instil good qualities in your kids. You have to be a role model. Increase the bond. Don’t estrange them. Look at their books, be a student yourself. Try to learn what your kids are learning. Be their companion in learning. Give your spouse the quality time. Be friends with your family.
Be careful about your fitness. Don’t fall prey to sedentary lifestyle. Watch out what you eat and drink. Do you walk regularly? Do you play some sport? Move your limbs. Lift your luggage. Walk to the market to fetch groceries. Clean your home. Keep yourself stress-free. Fitness will take you a long way.
Take care of your finance also. Make provisions. Make provision for your child’s education, for marriage. Make provision for your home. Make provision for retirement. Live on post provision income. Do provide for all big expenditures. Avoid wasteful expenditures. I am not advocating miserly living. But do not live beyond your means. Make provisions for foreseeable and unforeseen expenses. You must live off post provision earnings only. You want a car, a home of your own, decent education, marriage for your kids, make separate provisions. The rule is to make provisions.
Pay adequate attention to family, fitness, and finance from the very beginning. If your personal life is happy, that will help in professional life too. Don’t be a failure in personal life. Keep a fine balance between personal and professional life.
