Parents attempt to fulfill their duty of ‘settling’ their children when they come of marriageable age. They search for a perfect partner in all details to satisfy their desires of high opinion from friends, relatives and neighbours. But such a search is an impossible hunt! Because no one is perfect in this world; everyone has some flaws. But many parents do not have the grace to accept the fact there are some things which are ‘unattainable’ or the reality that ‘picture perfect marriageable stars’ are not present within the searchlight of their desired wishes. Such unrealistic wants of the parents who refuse to accept ‘sour grapes’ often frustrate their marriageable children. So, they turn to God and pray for a life-partner for their children as per their requirement.
The power of prayer is tremendous; it helps us to overcome the toughest of challenges, hurdles and misfortunes; it can heal, repair relationships, bring peace and change hearts. As many sick persons are cured just by the power of prayers many scientists today believe in the Supreme Being and researchers are examining the effects of prayers in healing.
God answers prayers in His time. So, one should keep on praying with pure mind; without doubting or murmuring or without pre-occupation elsewhere. If prayers are selfish, and with distraction than it is not prayers at all; such prayers don’t work.
God always does the right thing, even if it seems all wrong to us. God gives the very best to those who leave the choice to Him. If we don’t get what we ask, we acquire the ability to accept the unattainable. God does not answer prayers; if what we ask is good for us but creates problems for someone else. Human love has its origins on terra firma where it blossoms into a marriage.
It is true that certain divine intervention may draw people towards each other. But this does not mean that it will be an ideal relationship. The success of the human relationships will depend on the wisdom and compassion with which we approach them. If one has other romantic ideas, marriage crashes sooner or later; because one cannot cheat oneself forever. Marriage has been traditionally accepted as a sacred union between a man and woman. Success in marriage depends on adjustability with surrender and obedience and respect to each other, in finding the middle path to life’s problems; to avoid cracks to marriage.
Marriage is a contract with certain rights and responsibilities. Everyone see the faults of the other, sooner or later, after marriage. Even love marriages easily break up when either partner are ill-equipped to be tolerant to accommodate the fault of another and to negative happenings in the journey of life. Therefore, a marriage needs to be viewed as teamwork where each member has to put in his share of co-operation to find the best solution to push the boat of one’s life smoothly and safely down the fast-moving water of worldly existence and travel through the road without a mishap with skill and courage, for life is full of surprises with ups and downs.
The ‘perfect-match’ is one where each one takes the other as they are.
