It is said that there is no other feeling
in the world quite like love and I am sure most of you, if not all, would
agree. Whether it’s a simple kind of love like the platonic one shared between
friends or the complex form of love that is riddled with passion and crazy
ranges of emotions and shared between couples; whether it’s the understated and
most often than not, taken-for-granted-bond between parent and child or the
crazy and competitive yet cool connection between siblings; whichever way you
look at it, love does make the world go round.
But on the flipside of love, is lust. While
some people regard it as a sinful and sensuous emotion that is best kept away
from, dictionaries perceive it as having a strong and, at times, excessive
desire for someone or even something. So long as it isn’t borderline creepy and
stalker-ish, what’s so wrong in that? It is what it is. The only problem that I
see is, in this day and age, people confuse one for the other and thus end up
in the middle of nowhere. Like Olianna Portnoy said, if you fail to distinguish
between love and lust, then you have never loved. Now I will state right here
that I am no expert in either emotion. But I have seen too many friends go
through it all whilst having experienced my own, fair share of the madness…
Take for example, one friend of mine who I
believe is just in love with the idea of being in love. So much so that he
can’t stay single for very long! In his yearning to be with someone, he always
seems to end up asking out the wrong kind of woman and doesn’t pay heed to the
right kind of lady standing right in front of him. We were having a discussion
about this quite recently, when yet another one of his quests for love had come
up short and he pointed out that all the single people seemed to be sailing in
the same boat. And that made me wonder – are most of us singletons suckers for
punishment? Will we ever learn from our past mistakes and actually try to get
to know the ‘nice guys’ and the ‘good girls’?
After much deliberation that led to no more
clarity or fresh/right answers, I headed out with another friend for a much
needed night of dancing till our feet hurt. You know the ones where you come
home exhausted but happy? Well, let me tell you, not much dancing happened! He
spent most of the night zig-zagging and ducking out of sight, trying to avoid a
certain someone whilst I got talking to an acquaintance from South Goa. And as
luck would have it, our conversation revolved around the local dating pool! It
was so ironic I had to bite my tongue. But when he went on to describe his
dating shenanigans I couldn’t help but laugh out loud! That in turn led to a
discussion on ‘finding solutions’ to the ‘problem’ as we saw it and though it
was mighty interesting, that’s all I’m going to say on the matter because it is
a work in progress and I wouldn’t want to get ahead of myself on it all. For
now, let’s just say that there’s a great plan in the pipeline and in due time,
all shall be revealed. In the meantime one can only hope we all make wiser
decisions when it comes to matters of the heart and pray that we don’t let lust
cloud our judgement. And for those times when we just cannot seem to help
ourselves, there’s always ‘Lovefool’ by The Cardigans to echo your sentiments
and provide the backing track whilst you sing your heart out.
