Distance has
become inevitable in this modern society. Families and children are separated temporarily or
permanently depending on different contexts; to study out of state or abroad,
or job vacancies.
As time passes, this becomes challenging, no siblings to fight
with, no moms to wake you up in the mornings and no dads to give you those
lectures every evening. Long distance relations can severely affect mental
health and disturb emotional bonds.
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“It is my sixth year staying away from parents,” says Savan Makani,
from Porvorim studying in Ahmedabad, Gujarat.
Savan is Pursuing his Civil Engineering in 3rd year and he
usually meets his family during family gatherings. In the beginning of his
hostel life, Savan was always homesick, but gradually engaging with books and
studies helped him improve. He often calls his parents every alternate day and
video calls twice a week. “I was an introvert six years ago, but now I have
changed and begun exploring,” admits Savan
According to Savan, every child should experience an independent
atmosphere. That is how one learns to face a difficult situation.
Unlike Savan a Goan, Komal Modi is resident of Mumbai, but has
come to live in Goa to pursue her education in Indian Institute of Hotel
Management Goa. “There is not a single time that I don’t miss my parents,” she
sadly reveals.
Yet, Komal finds
various ways to be in touch with her loved ones. “Video call is the best thing
that I do. Sometimes it gets hectic, but my roommates make me feel like home
when they are around me,” she says. Being very close to her father, Komal
remembers all her happy moments she spends with him when on vacation. “It was
my father’s choice that I took this step of coming here and studying. My dad
encouraged me go ahead in my life,” she says.
“Being away from
parents has taught me the real value of respecting them,” she adds.
Close, yet far,
Yogesh Nakrani pursuing his BBA in Pune in Vishwkarma University in Pune has
been living five years away from his family. “I miss my Goa, but Pune is the
best option for education therefore I left my hometown,” he says.
Technology becomes
the primary source of connecting with families far away and similarly Yogesh is
regularly over calls with his parents, especially mother. “I miss her the most
as she used to look after all my little things and here I have to handle it all
by myself,” he says. Yogesh usually adjusts with a different environment and
hence the blues of being away from home skips his mind. “I have learnt to find
solutions on my own, no more mummy to fold my clothes or make my blanket. I
laugh at myself at times, but this is life we have to grow up and staying from
home taught me that,” shares Yogesh.
“Coming to Goa has
changed me as a person. I wish I could live here forever, but I miss home,” says
Swapnil Samad pursuing his Bachelors in Mass Communication. While everyone
moves out of Goa, Swapnil chose to step in the land of beaches because the cost
of living is lesser than the metro cities.
“I
am an adventure freak person so no, I don’t feel homesick,” he says
confidently. Swapnil has learnt that understanding things on our own we become
mature. However, though these youngsters reveal their different views, they all
support the importance of having regular contact with their parents. For an outgoing
person it is pretty easy to adjust in another environment, but sometimes
introverts take time and have the fear of being bullied or threatened in a new
place. Therefore, parents and elders always suggest being touch with family
members.
