Everybody has been through a break- up that leaves one with a sense of
bitterness, guilt, angst and sometimes, rage. While relationship ending
moments are commonplace, the question that needs to be asked is ‘ what
next?’ What happens when one is ‘ dumped’ or goes through the last few
chilling days of a relationship that has all the signals of ending?
Reema Crasto, a homemaker from Santa Cruz, who has now remarried, speaks
out about her uphill battle. “ I was told that I was no longer the
focal point of my then husband’s life. It’s quite shattering and easy
for bitterness to set in, but we had a child together ( which always
makes things more difficult) and I needed to act like all was well and
ease through the transition. I have since moved on with my life; I’ve
remarried and had a second child,” she says.
A downward spiral
might have been the case with Reema, as it was with the allegations in
the Wadia- Zinta case. However, optimism demands that one looks at the
flipside of the same equation. Renowned educator Therese Almeida shares
what it has taken to have a marriage that has endured over half a
century with her husband Sarto. “ While we have faced a few issues over
the years, I think that the bulk of these would be differences of
opinion in terms of our respective professions. We have never had
arguments, but I think that the key to sustaining a relationship over
time is to always have interests in common,” she says.
While
relationship longevity may not be everyone’s cup of tea and while
promises made in the honeymoon phase may not always stand the test of
time, what matters most is civility, for better or worse.
The
need of the hour in these situations is maturity. It is pointless
making a big deal over an issue when its outcome has already been
decided – Harshavardhan Desai, Entrepreneur
At times it is difficult to
grasp how things can go downhill so quickly, but the best tool to aid in
recovering from these situations is putting one’s self-respect first –
Pramay Sawant, Entrepreneur
